There is an ache for connection in the United States
today. At a time when politics is more
polarized, conversation is by text, families are more dispersed, and people are
living longer alone, Americans find themselves lonely and lacking
connection. In fact, in a nationwide
survey by Cigna among 20,000 adults the results were startling:
Only 53% report having meaningful, in-person
social interactions daily!
Nearly half report feeling alone (46%) or left
out always or sometimes (47%).
54% say they feel that no one knows them well.
56% report they sometime or always felt like the
people around them “are not necessarily with them.”
And two in five felt that their relationships
aren’t meaningful (43%) and they are isolated from others. (43%)
One in five, (18%) report they do not have
someone they feel like they can talk to.
I’ve always been interested in things that strengthen the community. That ranges from political organizing in my 20s (aimed at providing stable housing and keeping neighborhoods working as a communities) on to ongoing efforts to get folks together for potlucks, hikes, dance parties, family reunions and the like.
Recently I noticed that a variety of political and social commentators have names a strong network of friends as a key antidote to political craziness, social media manipulation, and even some negative health effects.
I agree and have argued the same. I’ve thought I’ve trying to add what I’ve learned to the pot.
What finally tipped this this website from concept to reality?
(Relatively) Easy Group Living: The Chart vs Keeping Count
I’ve lived with groups of people my entire life. Currently (at age 65) my wife and I live in a house with another couple and the last of the three ‘kids’, our son, Griffin, in his early 20s. We bought the house together some 25 years ago. This is not two flats. It’s one house with one kitchen, 2 master bed rooms and 3 other bedrooms plus living room, dining room, family room, and library.
Living with groups of people can create some conflict…most often around household chores. Thirty five years ago we figured out The Chart. It was a break-through!
“What we need is not to disagree less, but to disagree better. And that starts when you turn away the rhetorical dope peddlers — the powerful people on your own side who are profiting from the culture of contempt. “
talking to people ftf is the best way to convince – find link
That’s a fairly irritating way to put it. Perhaps there are only ‘values’ which are not dissimilar across the spectrum.
From the article: “A large portion of the political disagreement between conservatives and liberals appears to be disagreement over style, and not content,” they write in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology.