Our Vision

There is an ache for connection in the United States today.  At a time when politics is more polarized, conversation is by text, families are more dispersed, and people are living longer alone, Americans find themselves lonely and lacking connection.  In fact, in a nationwide survey by Cigna among 20,000 adults the results were startling:

  • Only 53% report having meaningful, in-person social interactions daily!
  • Nearly half report feeling alone (46%) or left out always or sometimes (47%).
  • 54% say they feel that no one knows them well.
  • 56% report they sometime or always felt like the people around them “are not necessarily with them.”
  • And two in five felt that their relationships aren’t meaningful (43%) and they are isolated from others. (43%)
  • One in five, (18%) report they do not have someone they feel like they can talk to.
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Introduction – What’s Here and Why

Why does this website exist?

I’ve always been interested in things that strengthen the community. That ranges from political organizing in my 20s (aimed at providing stable housing and keeping neighborhoods working as a communities) on to ongoing efforts to get folks together for potlucks, hikes, dance parties, family reunions and the like.

Recently I noticed that a variety of political and social commentators have names a strong network of friends as a key antidote to political craziness, social media manipulation, and even some negative health effects.

I agree and have argued the same. I’ve thought I’ve trying to add what I’ve learned to the pot.

What finally tipped this this website from concept to  reality?

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The Chart – Keeping the Peace in Group Households

(Relatively) Easy Group Living: The Chart vs Keeping Count

I’ve lived with groups of people my entire life. Currently (at age 65) my wife and I live in a house with another couple and the last of the three ‘kids’, our son, Griffin, in his early 20s. We bought the house together some 25 years ago. This is not two flats. It’s one house with one kitchen, 2 master bed rooms and 3 other bedrooms plus living room, dining room, family room, and library.

Living with groups of people can create some conflict…most often around household chores. Thirty five years ago we figured out The Chart. It was a break-through!

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5 to 20 Minutes a Month – Organize Hikes: Walking and Talking

Why?

It’s a great way to build community. In addition, it has significant health benefits to everyone that joins in:

The smart move is to combine them all.

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10 Minutes a Month – Easy Tribal Potluck Dinners

Why potlucks?

Potluck dinners scale. More people showing up = more food. Sharing food and conversation is the keystone tribal/family activity.

I started organizing potlucks my last few years in college. I’d make a huge pot of beans for veggie burritos. The only rule: no one could take leftovers home. We’d eat for the rest of the week.

Simplest: Anarchist Potluck

  • Set a day, time, and location.
  • Invite people.
  • Refuse to offer suggestions or coordinate what folks bring.
  • If everyone brings salad, order pizza.

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